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The Day My Grams Died...

It was August 25, 2011 at 9:50 a.m. I was the first one to receive the news.Martha Ellen Walton

I had received the call from my Aunt Eunice, my grandmother's older and remaining sister, around 9:30 that morning. She had been notified by the hospital that Grams had a heart attack. I rushed from where I was, grateful that my cousin Nona was around. She drove me to the hospital and I got to the ICU as quickly as I could.

When the doctors told me the news, my eyes widened, and I almost thought that I would collapse right there on the spot, but God enabled me to hold it together. The doctor explained everything they had tried to do to keep my Grams alive, but the combination of medications, along with the shocks, just couldn't do the job.

You see, my grandmother had COPD, and she had reached the final stages of the disease two months ago, when she was admitted to the emergency room because her blood pressure had dropped dangerously low. Her pastor's wife sang "How Great Is Our God" in her ear, and her pressure began to rise, inexplicably. So God gave her a little more time, that day, to be with us.

We had brought her back to the hospital at least 5 times between that episode and August 23, and when she was brought to the hospital that day, she had developed pneumonia.

It was her time to leave me, to leave us.

I am grateful for the 37 years that she was in my life. In spite of the issues that we had regarding my father, I still loved her very much, and did everything that I could to make her life sweet in those final months. From running errands, to spending the night, I am glad that I had the time to spend with her.

We buried her Wednesday, August 31. The funeral was a beautiful service, with plenty of beautiful purple flowers, and purple accents throughout the church (purple was her favorite color).

As the days have gone by, I allow the memories to wash over me. The sound of her voice, her sometimes colorful phrases, her giving spirit, her sweet disposition. I remember with fondness her penchant for cake. Even as a little boy, I remember her always going to this one bakery on East Main Street after church every Sunday and picking up cake. When she got sick and couldn't go out any more, any occasion at which cake was served, we would always bring her some cake. Wednesday was my daughter's birthday, and Grams would have been calling us, "Did you save me a piece of cake?"

I also remember all of the things she introduced me to. Gummy bears. Portuguese rolls. Truffles. Church. Cooking collard greens, spinach, mustard greens and cabbage with peppered jowls.

I treasure the fact that she taught me how to cook better than what I had already learned before I went to college. I am thankful that she taught me the secret to a great sweet-potato pie. Now, I'll be getting the calls...

Goodbye, Grams. I love you, I miss you, and I will never forget you....

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Comment balloon 13 commentsWilliam James Walton Sr. • September 04 2011 11:43PM


Williams - I am so sorry for your loss.  I know you will miss her so much, but you will see her again one day.  God Bless you and your family.

Posted by Pam Miller, Broker Associate - Water Crest on Lake Conroe (Realty Associates) over 8 years ago

I'm so sorry to hear of your grandmother's passing, William. I hope you will be comforted knowing that the Lord sent angels to escort her to heaven, where she will be waiting for you. God bless!

Posted by Rose King, Friendswood / Pearland / Houston Bay Area (David Tracy Real Estate) over 8 years ago


Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. We lost my grandmother last year, and loses a matriarch is hard on the family. But I see you are remembering her, and the great things she provided your family.. You are blessed to have had her in your life.

Posted by Scott Hayes, Realty Austin, Broker Associate ((512) 786-8300) over 8 years ago



You're so sweet!



May she smile upon you every day.


Love and light,


Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) over 8 years ago

What a lovely tribute to your grandmother...

Posted by Brenda Whitman, Live in Laramie Real Estate, Broker/Co-Owner, Laramie, Wyoming (Live in Laramie Real Estate, Laramie, Wyoming) over 8 years ago

William, my thoughts and prayers are with you as you grieve the loss of your grandmother. It is an amazing tribute of your grandmother. Peace.


Posted by Cal Yoder, Homes For Sale in Lancaster PA - 717.413.0744 (Keller Williams Elite) over 8 years ago

William, What a touching tribute to your Grams.  I had so many tears in my eyes that it was hard to finish your post. 

She is now in a better place and will continue to look down on you and her entire family. 

As soon as I read your opening line I thought of my own father who died in August seven years ago.  He was buried on his birthday August 11th.  I have thought of him often this past August.

I will remember all in my prayers.

Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) over 8 years ago

PS William, I had to come back to award Gold Star in Do Not Worry ~ Today group.  I am going to click 'SUGGEST' and 'LIKE' buttons.

Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) over 8 years ago

William, I know she was important to you and that importance was reflected in the look on your face when you mentioned her. She is now in a better place with no burdens to carry any more, and to those that she leaves behind, her legacy will be the continuation of the things she taught you. May she rest in peace, and may you find solace and comfort in her memory, but easy on the pies young man.

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) over 8 years ago

William sorry for you lose.  It is hard when we lose someone that is that close and important to us.  Hang on to the memories my friend.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) over 8 years ago

William - I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandmother.  Please extend my deepest sympathy and condolences to your family.  This is such a beautiful tribute to her and something that I'm sure she would be so proud of you for writing.

Posted by Julie Dumaine-Russell (RE/MAX Alliance) over 8 years ago

A heartfelt post. Thanks for sharing it. I didn't want to forget my wise old grandmother, who adopted me when I was 11. She died in 2003. In 2006 I created a web site to keep her hame alive. You can guess that the web site is mywiseoldgrandmother.com. It's a great way to keep those memories and to share them with the world.

Posted by Not a real person over 8 years ago

William - You wrote that so beautifully and simply from your heart.  I never met your Grams, but I feel the pain of that loss in your life.  I can see from the photo of her what a strong and beautiful woman she was.  I lost my mom in March and my dad in June this year, so I know how hard it is to lose people who love you unconditionally.  It's hard to find love like that in life.  Well, actually it's impossible.  She's with you in spirit. 

Posted by Gail Robinson, CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT (William Raveis Real Estate) over 8 years ago