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Is Loving The Home You Buy A Necessity? I Think Not...

Is Loving The Home You Buy A Necessity? I Think Not…


you don't need to love the house first in order to buy it


Jennifer Fivesdal asked a question in a recent post How many homes should you look at before making an offer? Her premise was that with a pre-set list of criteria, there was no need for buyers to look through an entire inventory of homes before making an offer.


I made this comment on her post:


I find that the reason why some buyers end up going through so many listings before making an offer is one of two scenarios: either their wants change with the weather, or they are looking for an emotional attachment to the home they eventually purchase.”


Now, buyers are entitled to change their minds about what they want (as long as it is not unreasonable, imho). But that wasn’t what caught my attention when I wrote the comment.


How many times have you, as a buyer, looked at a home, liked the home, it met your criteria, but yet you walked away without making an offer because, in your  words, “it just doesn’t feel right?” It wasn’t the price or condition – those things could be discussed and negotiated in the offer; but your overall sense of things was that you just wouldn’t love the home once it was finally yours.


you don't need to love the house first in order to buy itFrom a practical standpoint, I do understand that if you, as a buyer, are going to buy a home that you should at least like the home. After all, that was the point of providing your agent with the list of criteria that you desired in the home, from the size, location, type of home, etc. But loving it? It has to feel like a home? Sorry, but that shouldn’t come until after you have made the home yours – after you have made the offer, completed the inspections, have made it to the closing table and the keys are in your hands.


Passing up what might possibly be the home of your dreams because you’re not “feeling” it at the first moment you step into it only serves to waste your time and energy in searching for a home. It may be hard to divorce yourself from desiring an emotional attachment to homes as you search for “the one”, but approaching your home search without that component to it may possibly be the best advice you can get, and will make your quest to purchase a home much easier and sooner to achieve.


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Comment balloon 3 commentsWilliam James Walton Sr. • November 27 2011 09:08PM


hmm...interesting premise.  As someone who has never bought a home i've never been through this process.  I think our society so often though focuses on a feeling I remember finding that feeling when looking at colleges and people always talk about it when they find their perfect wedding dress.

Posted by Kim Frasier, Showcase Your Listing with its Best View (Best View Imaging) almost 9 years ago

You raise some good points.  I have found when this occurs, when there are 2 parties, they have different criteria. 

Posted by Joan Whitebook, Consumer Focused Real Estate Services (BHG The Masiello Group) almost 9 years ago

It happens with homes, cars and even people. We make an emotional connection as well as an amenity connection. May have everything we want, but still just doesn't have that connection.


Posted by Respect Realty LLC, Brokers - Oregon / SW Washington Real Estate (Respect Realty LLC) almost 9 years ago